“We haven’t had sex for a while,” he said. 

He was right. 

The past weeks had been a blur. When my partner’s father unexpectedly passed away, everything shifted overnight. Our plans dissolved. We flew from Bali back to Lithuania. Instead of teaching together, we found ourselves at a funeral — surrounded by grief, logistics, practical decisions, and long days that left us exhausted. 

Our physical intimacy quietly slipped to the background. 

Not because the love wasn’t there.

Not because something was wrong between us.

But because life was asking a lot. 

We fell asleep tired every night. We woke up early again. And honestly? That happens. It happens to so many couples — including us.  

And yet, we both know this:

Intimacy matters. Connection matters.

And good sex, especially during challenging times, can do wonders for a relationship. 

  So when one of us notices it, we speak it. We don’t ignore it or make it wrong. We bring it into awareness. That, for us, is always step one. 

That day, we set the intention to make love that evening. 

And yet… when night came, we found ourselves on our phones, each in our own bubble, tired beyond words. So we let it go. 

The next morning, we tried again. 

We woke up together and made a gentle effort to connect — and suddenly... 

we were in that awkward space many couples know so well: How does this work again? 

 A space that can feel unfamiliar, vulnerable, even a little uncomfortable. 

This too is normal.

 Being intimate with another human requires openness. And when life has been intense, we often close without noticing. We harden a little. We protect ourselves. 

That morning, we were mismatched:

He was ready quickly. I wasn’t there yet.   

  A very common dynamic between men and women, whose sexuality is wired differently.  

“I’m not ready for penetration yet,” I said. 

Such a simple sentence. And yet, inside me, it brought up so much:

I wanted to be ready.

I wondered why I wasn’t feeling much.

I judged my body for not responding faster.

I didn’t want to reject him.

I worried he might feel unwanted.  

It’s fascinating how even with all the work we’ve done, these thoughts can still arise. 

What mattered most, though, was his response. 

With so much care, he reminded me that we didn’t have to do anything. That there was nowhere to go. Nothing to prove. 

So we softened back into just being together. Resting. Him holding me. Our bodies close. Honoring what was truly there in that moment. 

We followed the energy instead of forcing it.

We trusted the process instead of the plan. 

And this is where I felt deeply grateful for the work we’ve done as a couple. 

Because we know:

There are many doors into intimacy. 

 Many ways to connect.

Many rhythms of lovemaking.

 We understand our differences.

We know how to honor both yin and yang.

How to meet each other physically and energetically.

How to surrender instead of push.  

And then — without trying — the fire returned.

 We made love.

Short. Passionate. Real. 

And afterward, both our nervous systems softened. We melted. We felt connected again. 

This experience reminded me of something I believe deeply:

 Intimacy cannot be a habit. 

And it’s not something that only happens when both partners magically feel desire at the same time. 

If we treat intimacy that way, we set ourselves up for disappointment in the long run. 

You will move through seasons as a couple.

Your relationship will change.

And so will your sexuality.

 Every season has its own flavor.

Its own rhythm.

Its own purpose. 

And every season offers a different doorway into connection — if we’re willing to meet it with presence instead of expectation.  

This is something we’ll explore during the Bridge Valentine Event.  

 Whether your intimate life has been vibrant, quiet, or completely absent lately — it doesn’t matter. 

This event isn’t about fixing.

It’s not about performing intimacy or meeting an ideal. 

It’s an invitation to reconnect from where you are.

To soften together.

To remember what’s possible when safety comes first. 

A fresh start.

An honest meeting point.

A moment of real presence. 

Because intimacy doesn’t disappear when love is gone.

It disappears when life gets loud. 

And it can always be found again — gently, consciously, together.

The BRIDGE Valentine’s Event is an immersive experience created especially for couples who...

Want to deepen their connection, intimacy, and relationship in a grounded and accessible way. 

Through a down-to-earth introduction to the tantric approach to connection, love, relationships, and sexuality, you’ll be invited to explore new ways of relating — with yourself and with each other.  

 You can expect to walk away with practical tools and fresh perspectives that support deeper understanding, more love, renewed passion, and a stronger sense of connection. 

Most of all, this evening is an invitation to slow down, soften, and truly meet each other again — beyond the roles and routines of everyday life.

 Everything is created to feel safe, respectful, and accessible — whether this is your first introduction to tantra or you’re already familiar with the principles.